I’ve been thinking so much lately how incredibly lucky I am to have a spouse who understands and accepts all the time and effort that my training and racing takes. When people who don’t know my husband ask about what he is like, they always assume he is a runner too. But he isn’t. Honestly, I’m glad he isn’t, I think it is very important for members of a couple to retain some individuality, and have things they enjoy on their own. My husband may not be a runner but he is an athlete too, he is a golfer. And when I say golfer, I’m not talking about the guy who goes occasionally, or maybe once a week, and drinks beer the entire round. My hubs is serious about his game. He has been playing the links since he could walk. Instead of hiring a babysitter during the summer months when he and his brother were younger, his mom would drop them off at the local golf course on her way to work, and they would play up to 72 holes a day. Talk about the most perfect baby-sitting service ever!
The hubs played all through high school and eventually went on to play golf in college. Now, post-grad and weather permitting, he plays up to 7 days a week when he can. When he can’t squeeze in a round, he always makes time for the driving range. Which I am SO beyond cool with.
I remember vividly after my husband and I got married, one of his grandmothers asked me if I was ready to be a ‘Golf Widow’. I had no clue what she meant, and asked her to expand upon her inquiry. She explained that Matt’s grandfather, during their entire marriage, spent so many hours at the course, that she was alone quite a bit during the golf season, alas, making her a token Golf Widow. I just smiled and said ‘Aboslutely! It will give me plenty of time to go for my runs’. She seemed puzzled, and I feel she was a tad bitter that she wasn’t able to recruit me to join in on her own disgruntled mood. Afterall, misery does love company.
A marriage is not easy, it takes work, and lots of compromise. But one thing neither my husband or I are willing to compromise, or give up completely, is the love of our favorite sports. We were both multi-sport athletes growing up, and chose to focus on one of them in our collegiate years. We have been competing in athletics since we were old enough to join our respective local teams. Athletics have been a large part of our lives, the experiences we have had being on teams, and challenging our bodies and minds has made us who were are today. Just because we work 40+ hours a week, does not mean we can’t devote a few hours a day to continue with honing our athletic skills. Honestly, without running and golf in our lives, our marriage would probably go up in flames.
While my husband isn’t a runner, he is a huge supporter of my races, and is always willing to be my race crew. He has been such a great sport, especially over the last few years in my quest for the elusive BQ. I have been trying to think of a way to show my gratitude, and toyed with the idea of scooping up tickets for a golf tournament to spectate. Well, an opportunity fell into our lap this weekend, some great friends invited us to attend The Memorial Tournament with them. I happily obliged to attend and show my support toward my husband, and learn more about the game he holds so dear to his heart.
We had a fabulous time, getting to be within spitting distance of some of the game’s current greats. I was super pumped to get to watch Phil Mickelson tee off a few times. He is my favorite, not only is he a solid player, he is just a class act. He is so appreciative and gracious towards his fans, and just seems like a genuine guy. I was able to witness Rickie Fowler and all his bright orange glory, and all the kids and teens emulating his look with their flat-billed Puma hats, orange polos, and straggly hair. Others we saw were Bubba Watson, Ricky Barnes (meow), Davis Love III, Stewart Cink and Rory McIlroy. We almost got run over by Jack Nicklaus on his golf cart. I about bumped into former OSU Football Coach John Cooper, and I caught a glimpse of my favorite local celebrity and Muskie Alum, Jungle Jack Hanna!
Amidst all the excitement with the celebrity sightings, I also enjoyed expanding my knowledge of the game. I made sure to ask as many questions as I could think of, and dare I say the hubs was even impressed by some of them!
I am so happy this opportunity presented itself and we were able to spend a perfect little Sunday together with some great friends. The hubs is so relaxed and happy when he is around the game, and I feel like I have finally found a way to show my appreciation for all the support he has provided for me in regards to my second love.
Looks like attending The Memorial Tournament may become yet another Stout Family tradition.